Polyamory: (n) the philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time.
I’ve been somewhat heartened by how much press polyamory has been getting as of late. Yes, it is still a tiny percentage of the population which practice it, but it is now getting write ups in Newsweek, many personal blogs, and even some television coverage. It seems an incredibly logical choice to me. There is a much higher chance for success when a diverse complement of human beings is utilized to meet the spiritual, emotional, and physical needs of any given individual. Attempting to accomplish the same objective with only one person trying to fulfill all of those needs for that individual will almost certainly have a lower chance of prosperity for the person whose needs they are.
Love is not a finite resource. Loving another person does not lessen my ability to love you at all. In fact, I would argue that it might actually increase my ability to love you. Ensuring that everyone’s needs are met within a relationship without anyone having to do something they’re uncomfortable with will likely strengthen the bonds between any two people that are participants within the relationship. The key is to find a setup that works for all parties concerned. Polyamory is not one set format. It could be anything from two males and two females who do not stray outside of their quad to a legally married couple who date openly to three men living together who all date other people but are committed to one another. As with traditional monogamous relationships, the critical component of polyamorous relationship is frequent open and honest communication.
Jealousy is absolutely illogical. If you trust your loved one, then there is no point in being jealous. If you don’t trust the ones that you are involved with, then you’ve got bigger problems than determining how many partners you are going to allow in the relationship. This is not to say that polyamory is for everyone. That would be asinine. Many people will prefer monogamy, and that’s great. But I am psyched that polyamory seems to be gaining a bit of social awareness, even if it has not reached the acceptance level yet.